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About CJ

CJ is a Brit living in America who wholeheartedly embraces the worst of both cultures, including British sarcasm and Californian New Age mumbo-jumbo. She is the author of the forthcoming book, Adulterer’s Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not.

The Crown – British History as Game of Thrones

Adolph Hitler greets Nazi sympathizer and playboy, the Duke of Windsor, and his wife, Wallis Simpson, in 1937. Luckily for Britain, as King Edward VIII, he had to abdicate to marry the American divorcee. His duty-bound brother became King George VI, whose daughter Elizabeth inherited the throne.

Queen Elizabeth and Prince Philip celebrate their 70th wedding anniversary on November 20, 2017. Elizabeth is not only the longest-reigning and longest-married monarch in British history, but also has been the hardest working. Continue reading The Crown – British History as Game of Thrones

Harvey Weinstein and the 1980s Wandering Hands Era

A Washington Post report by Monica Hesse and Dan Zak alleges systemic sexual assault by movie executive Harvey Weinstein dating back to the 1980s. It reminded me of attitudes towards women that were prevalent when I was working in the media at that time. Certain men I worked with in the BBC in Britain in the early 1980s were known for having what we girls described as “wandering hands syndrome.” Continue reading Harvey Weinstein and the 1980s Wandering Hands Era

Living in Monty Python’s Dead Parrot Sketch

John Cleese and Michael Palin performing the Dead Parrot Sketch during the 2014 Monty Python Live (Mostly) show in London. Photo by Eduardo Unda-Sanzana, Wikimedia.

I was busy at my computer working on “Resting in Peace”­—the last chapter of the next book I’m writing, Hotel Chemo: Learning to Laugh through Breast Cancer and Infidelity. Getting breast cancer for the second time had been a sharp reminder that I wasn’t a permanent resident on planet Earth. Continue reading Living in Monty Python’s Dead Parrot Sketch

Valentine’s Day: Horrible Holiday for Cheaters’ Wives

Skedonk, WIkimedia Commons

You can’t get away from all the paraphernalia about love and romance on Valentine’s Day. If you know your partner is cheating, this holiday will bring up all kinds of negative feelings whether or not he does anything to celebrate the day with you. In some ways the slimebag is damned if he does and damned if he doesn’t. Continue reading Valentine’s Day: Horrible Holiday for Cheaters’ Wives

Fifty Shades Films Support Family Values and Kinky Sex

Dakota Johnson as Anastasia Steele on the set of Fifty Shades of Grey. Photo by Nigel Horsley, Wikimedia Commons.

Explicit sadomasochist sex in a “Red Room of Pain.” A plethora of sex toys and bondage tools. Yet the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy about the love affair between seriously screwed-up Christian and virginal Anastasia is in many ways extremely traditional in the family values it promotes. Absolute fidelity is a given. Polyamory is completely off the table.  Continue reading Fifty Shades Films Support Family Values and Kinky Sex

Choose a Spouse Like You’d Choose a Tenant

Asset Stripping

Most people would screen prospective tenants or employees more rigorously than a potential spouse. A landlord will want to ensure that a tenant has good credit and is going to pay the rent. Business owners will look at a person’s employment history to decide whether or hire him or her. But doing a background check on a potential mate? Isn’t that rather tacky and unromantic?

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The Mistress: Villain or Victim?


Society likes to paint the mistress as an immoral floozy or a scarlet woman. She is the evil villain trying to pry that hapless, helpless husband away from his lawfully wedded wife. Yet some might believe that the mistress herself is being victimized in some respects. Continue reading The Mistress: Villain or Victim?

HBO’s Divorce Show: I’d Prefer Euthanasia

Sarah Jessica Parker at the 2012 Nobel Peace Prize Concert in Oslo courtesy of  Bjoevrtvedt, Wikimedia Commons

After hearing about my book, Adulterer’s Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not, people would ask me what I thought about the HBO series, Divorce. The show’s first season ended earlier this month to great acclaim. Continue reading HBO’s Divorce Show: I’d Prefer Euthanasia

12 Christmas Gifts for a Cheating Ex

I’m being horribly hypocritical writing this list of 12 gifts to mock the man in your life who has let you down. The mantra of my book, Adulterer’s Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not is that revenge is not sweet and the best revenge is to get past the need for it. But I’m not recommending smashing his prized Ming vase or shooting him in the nuts—just some gently sardonic humor at his expense. Continue reading 12 Christmas Gifts for a Cheating Ex

Is He Addicted to Sex with the Other Woman?

An affair has none of the dreary baggage endemic in a long-term relationship. You can devote your time together to sex and romance rather than dealing with the kids or talking about taxes. There’s the excitement of secrecy and stolen moments together. You can indulge in wanton passion as you take a break from the real world, in a bubble that only you and your lover inhabit. Continue reading Is He Addicted to Sex with the Other Woman?

Should Horndog Trump Be President?

Vulgar remarks are not enough to turn me away from voting for Donald Trump. More disturbing to me are his business decisions, political naïveté and policies that seem to invite domestic and international disaster. If I felt he would make a good president, I would vote for him, despite the lewd video from 2005 of his private comments that has just been released by the Washington Post. Continue reading Should Horndog Trump Be President?

Ridiculous Revenge: Going Nuts over Infidelity

Clearly it’s a major shock to discover your dearly beloved’s infidelity. However some folks have compounded the awfulness of their situation by reacting in such an extreme fashion that they face prosecution for what they’ve done to get back at their philandering partners. Continue reading Ridiculous Revenge: Going Nuts over Infidelity

Multiple Lovers & Tantric Sex: Quantity vs Quality

Indian rajas were renowned for having thousands of lovers and their pick of the most beautiful women. These rajas and many of their partners were extensively trained in advanced Tantric sex techniques. Yet despite this, according to some of the ancient literature of the time, Indian princes and monarchs often complained that the sex was lackluster and unsatisfying. Continue reading Multiple Lovers & Tantric Sex: Quantity vs Quality

Cheating: An American Presidential Tradition

“If Hillary Clinton can’t satisfy her husband what makes her think she can satisfy America?” tweeted Republican Presidential Nominee Donald Trump on April 16, 2015. He clearly had no sympathy for her dual role as First Lady and adulterer’s wife during Bill Clinton’s presidency. Since so many past presidents have cheated on their wives, does Trump’s extensive experience in infidelity make him uniquely suited for the job? Despite the fact that unlike virtually all previous US presidents, Trump has no background in government, the military or politics, bonking babes is one subject he knows a lot about.

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Killing French Infidels for 72 Virgins

Charlie Hebdo Cartoon TranslatedThe horrendous Bastille Day slaughter in Nice on July 14 was just the latest in a series of terrorist atrocities done for the sake of Allah in France. There have been so many that Wikipedia lists them in a table.  Nice was the 13th Islamic attack in France since December 2014 – all for the promise of 72 virgins in paradise. In January 2015, there was a mass shooting at the Paris offices of the satirical magazine, Charlie Hebdo, which had dared to publish cartoons about Muhammad.

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