Category Archives: Revenge

Revenge and how to deal with it

The Sweetest Revenge

Cartoon showing angry woman attacking unfaithful husband with a rolling pin, then calming down as she reads Adulterer's Wife book.I heard about a contractor who was so angry about his wife’s infidelity that he filled her car with cement. Everyone laughs when they hear that story. But where does a couple go from there? Definitely not reconciliation, and most likely an expensive acrimonious divorce. Continue reading The Sweetest Revenge

Forgiving Infidelity: Better after Betrayal

Finding a damning text message on my husband's phoneMy eyes were so blurred with tears, I could barely read the text on the computer screen. I was checking the final corrections to my husband’s latest book. A tear dripped onto my handwritten notes, smudging the ink. Our office manager sat beside me. I blew my nose and told him I was suffering from terrible pollen allergies. Continue reading Forgiving Infidelity: Better after Betrayal

Should You Tell Someone Their Partner Is Cheating?

My husband was unfaithful throughout almost three decades of marriage. I take a controversial view. I was grateful I didn’t know about it till the end. Continue reading Should You Tell Someone Their Partner Is Cheating?

12 Christmas Gifts for a Cheating Ex

I’m being horribly hypocritical writing this list of 12 gifts to mock the man in your life who has let you down. The mantra of my book, Adulterer’s Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not is that revenge is not sweet and the best revenge is to get past the need for it. But I’m not recommending smashing his prized Ming vase or shooting him in the nuts—just some gently sardonic humor at his expense. If you want more ideas, take a look at my 20182019202020212022 and 2023 lists. Some of them even include a new feature—links to any items that are readily available. Continue reading 12 Christmas Gifts for a Cheating Ex

Ridiculous Revenge: Going Nuts over Infidelity

Clearly it’s a major shock to discover your dearly beloved’s infidelity. However some folks have compounded the awfulness of their situation by reacting in such an extreme fashion that they face prosecution for what they’ve done to get back at their philandering partners. Continue reading Ridiculous Revenge: Going Nuts over Infidelity

Revenge Is Not Sweet

In the movies, revenge is sweet. In real life, that’s not necessarily the case. The desire for revenge can be a very toxic emotion that keeps you bound to all the negative effects you’ve suffered from his infidelity. Seeking vengeance can lead to endless hatred and bitterness—it never brings back what you have lost. Continue reading Revenge Is Not Sweet