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About CJ

CJ is a Brit living in America who wholeheartedly embraces the worst of both cultures, including British sarcasm and Californian New Age mumbo-jumbo. She is the author of the forthcoming book, Adulterer’s Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not.

Isabel Allende and Late-in-Life Love in the Time of Coronavirus

Isabel Allende speaking to the City Club of Cleveland in 2017

While under the Covid-19 lockdown in California, 77-year-old author Isabel Allende has been reading Love in the Time of Cholera by Gabriel Garcia Marquez, as well as writing another book and enjoying the company of her new husband, Roger Cukras. For Allende, it’s love in the time of coronavirus. After her long-term marriage ended in 2015, Allende expected to be single till she died. But now she declares she is in love and in lust with the man she married last year, and that if she can do that, anyone can. Continue reading Isabel Allende and Late-in-Life Love in the Time of Coronavirus

Risky Behavior in the Covid-19 Era

Sheltering in place has been a dangerous experience. I’ve suffered burns from dropping ovenware on myself—more meals at home so more cooking accidents. It’s a good thing I don’t like bagels—failed attempts to cut them in half is a major reason for ER visits. Continue reading Risky Behavior in the Covid-19 Era

Full-Frontal Covid-19 Fashion

CJ attempts to look good in a gas mask

My police surplus gas mask was recommended by Jeff who lives upstairs. He would wear the same model as mine in grocery stores even before lockdown happened. “I don’t care if people give me ugly looks as if I’ve just killed their dog,” he declared. “I don’t want to breathe in their microbes.” Continue reading Full-Frontal Covid-19 Fashion

E-Card Valentine Made Me Grumpy

Valentine’s Day card from c. 1910

At my advanced age, perhaps I should have been grateful that someone found me attractive enough to merit sending a Valentine’s Day greeting. But couple of years ago, my dearly beloved made a big mistake in what he chose to send me to mark the occasion. I may be old-fashioned, but am I the only person who finds animated e-cards intensely unromantic and annoying? Continue reading E-Card Valentine Made Me Grumpy

February 13: Valentine’s Day for Mistresses

Scarleth White, Wikimedia Commons

Every year, a guy I know reminds a movie producer friend of his that Valentine’s Day is coming up so that he remembers to buy cards and gifts for his various mistresses. Continue reading February 13: Valentine’s Day for Mistresses

Diane Sward Rapaport: Empowering Musicians, Hookers and Me

Photo by CJ Grace

Resting in Peace

My book, Adulterer’s Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not, was published by Jerome Headlands Press, owned by Diane Rapaport. She gave me a lot of support and editorial advice for the book I’m currently completing, Hotel Chemo. Diane told me, “If I had a friend with breast cancer, not only would I want them to read this book, I’d want all their friends and relatives to read it, because they will tend to be pretty clueless about what happens to someone with cancer.” It was a cruel irony that as I was finishing off Hotel Chemo’s final chapter, “Resting in Peace,” I found out that Diane had been diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer Continue reading Diane Sward Rapaport: Empowering Musicians, Hookers and Me

January Divorce for Dunces

When the Holidays Don’t Mean Family Togetherness

Despite being considered as a period for family togetherness, joy and goodwill to all, the holidays can be a toxic time for relationships on the rocks. Continue reading January Divorce for Dunces

Christmas Gifts for a Cheating Ex 2019

Hot off the press – a new list of 12 Xmas Gifts for your unfaithful ex. These presents have been painstakingly gathered from all over the globe – England, France, China, Jamaica, New Zealand and, of course, America. Continue reading Christmas Gifts for a Cheating Ex 2019

Was Melania Telegraph story fair and balanced?

Melania Trump speaking at the International Women of Courage 2018 Awards Ceremony. Will history remember her as a woman of courage?

“One wonders how so many falsehoods could be crammed into a single article.” tweeted Brit Hume of Fox News. Added President Trump, “This is a very big deal in Europe. Fake News is the Enemy of the People!” The offending article was “The Mystery of Melania” that appeared in the January 19, 2019 issue of The Telegraph in Britain. Yet the story for which Mrs. Trump’s lawyers in Britain extracted an apology and substantial damages was excerpted from a book that has been available in the United States since October 2018. Continue reading Was Melania Telegraph story fair and balanced?

12 Xmas Gifts for Unfaithful Exes

Drawing on the success of the 12 Christmas Gifts for a Cheating Ex blog I wrote in 2016, here’s a brand new list of items for the discriminating gift buyer. Continue reading 12 Xmas Gifts for Unfaithful Exes

Moths in Drag and Fake Hair

Read on if you dare! This moth hater blog was my first article to be rejected by Thrive Global, no doubt because of the Yuck Factor. My other submissions were all accepted. Having been up close and personal with clothes moths, I was intrigued to hear about a gay solution to get rid of them. Continue reading Moths in Drag and Fake Hair

Confessions of a Cannibal Mom

Woman Eating by Australian Painter Peter Purves Smith

I’ve tasted human meat, not once but twice. Despite the fact that it was my own flesh, I’m still alive to tell the tale. Shortly after popping out each of my two children, I dined on their placentas, sautéed with onions and garlic in a red wine sauce. I described my culinary experiences in all their gory detail for the Women’s section of telegraph.co.uk. Continue reading Confessions of a Cannibal Mom

CJ Discusses Infidelity on Sex, Love and Superpowers Show

TATIANA: Hello everyone, and welcome to the Sex, Love and Superpowers Podcast. I’m your host, Tatiana Berindei, and today I am here with CJ Grace, and we’re going to be talking about why infidelity in marriage happens, advice from the Adulterer’s Wife. Continue reading CJ Discusses Infidelity on Sex, Love and Superpowers Show

Carl Jung: Shameless Adulterer, Cruel Father and Archetype from Hell

“The prerequisite for a good marriage, it seems to me, is the license to be unfaithful,” declared celebrated Swiss shrink Dr. Carl Jung in a letter he wrote to Sigmund Freud in 1910. Continue reading Carl Jung: Shameless Adulterer, Cruel Father and Archetype from Hell

Angelina Jolie’s BRCA Mastectomy Debate: My Biased View

Photo by Alex Villarreal, Voice of America

Deciding whether or not to have a mastectomy (where all breast tissue is removed), either as a prophylactic or instead of a lumpectomy (where only the breast tumor and the area around it is taken out), is a very personal choice with many variables. BRCA1 gene mutation carrier, Caitlin Brodnick, in her terrifically-titled book, Dangerous Boobies: Breaking Up with My Time-Bomb Breasts (Berkeley, CA: Seal Press, 2017), makes a strong case for prophylactic mastectomies, describing a childhood filled with relatives dying from cancer. I have the slightly less risky BRCA2 rather than BRCA1 gene defect and I admit being biased against mastectomies. Continue reading Angelina Jolie’s BRCA Mastectomy Debate: My Biased View

Anna Rowe Defends Her Anti-Catfishing Petition

I came across CJ Grace’s blog, Anna Rowe’s Anti-Catfishing Petition Misguided, and disagreed with some of her assumptions, so I contacted her to explain my point of view. We began a dialogue together and CJ, the author of Adulterer’s Wife: How to Thrive Whether You Stay or Not, invited me to post this guest blog on her website adultererswife.com.

I live in Britain, which has taken a strong stance against grooming children—building an emotional connection with a child to gain his or her trust for the purposes of sexual exploitation. Legislation is in place to protect children up to the age of 15 years and 364 days old, but as soon as you turn 16, there is nothing to protect you against these same abusers. Continue reading Anna Rowe Defends Her Anti-Catfishing Petition

The Crown – British History as Game of Thrones

Adolph Hitler greets Nazi sympathizer and playboy, the Duke of Windsor, and his wife, Wallis Simpson, in 1937. Luckily for Britain, as King Edward VIII, he had to abdicate to marry the American divorcee. His duty-bound brother became King George VI, whose daughter Elizabeth inherited the throne.

Queen Elizabeth and Prince Philip celebrate their 70th wedding anniversary on November 20, 2017. Elizabeth is not only the longest-reigning and longest-married monarch in British history, but also has been the hardest working. Continue reading The Crown – British History as Game of Thrones

Harvey Weinstein and the 1980s Wandering Hands Era

A Washington Post report by Monica Hesse and Dan Zak alleges systemic sexual assault by movie executive Harvey Weinstein dating back to the 1980s. It reminded me of attitudes towards women that were prevalent when I was working in the media at that time. Certain men I worked with in the BBC in Britain in the early 1980s were known for having what we girls described as “wandering hands syndrome.” Continue reading Harvey Weinstein and the 1980s Wandering Hands Era

Living in Monty Python’s Dead Parrot Sketch

John Cleese and Michael Palin performing the Dead Parrot Sketch during the 2014 Monty Python Live (Mostly) show in London. Photo by Eduardo Unda-Sanzana, Wikimedia.

I was busy at my computer working on “Resting in Peace”­—the last chapter of the next book I’m writing, My Wild Ride: How to Thrive After Breast Cancer and Infidelity. Getting breast cancer for the second time had been a sharp reminder that I wasn’t a permanent resident on planet Earth. Continue reading Living in Monty Python’s Dead Parrot Sketch

Anna Rowe’s Anti-Catfishing Petition Misguided

Anna Rowe was duped into a 14-month romance with a married man she met on Tinder who had used a false name and profile picture. The woman, from Canterbury, England, now wants the use of false names on dating websites to be made illegal. Continue reading Anna Rowe’s Anti-Catfishing Petition Misguided