CHAPTER ONE: DISCOVERY AND DEVASTATION
Confronting Your Man
Obvious Evidence
Excuses, Excuses
Caught Cheating? Marital Damage Control for Dunces
All His Fault?
Revenge Is Not Sweet
How Do You Deal with All the Negative Emotions?
Techniques to Tackle Toxic Emotions
Nonviolent Communication
CHAPTER TWO: HOW HIS INFIDELITY CAN TRANSFORM YOU INTO A HAPPIER PERSON
Use the Shock to Trigger Transformation
Relax, Damn It!
Muttering Mantras
Let Go of Your Negative Emotions
Can’t You Just Take Happy Pills to Feel Better?
Get out of Your Comfort Zone
Find Your Passion
CHAPTER THREE: FIVE THINGS TO DO TO STOP FEELING LIKE SHIT
- Find Confidantes
- Cultivate Connections Both Old and New
Laughter Therapy
- Love Your Body and Become Beautiful
Less of You to Love?
Exercise for Health and Banishing the Blues
- Be the Happy Hedonist
Retail Therapy
Intentional Incompetence
- Live in the Present
What Can You Do to Be More Aware of the Present?
Chocolate-flavored Mindfulness
Multitasking Versus Being Present
CHAPTER FOUR: FIVE THINGS TO AVOID TO KEEP YOUR LIFE PEACEFUL
- Do Not Drag Your Kids into a War Zone
- Neither Be a Harpy nor a Stepford Wife
- Do Not Vent to Everyone
- Neither Compete with nor Criticize the Other Woman
- Avoid Spy Against Spy
CHAPTER FIVE: STAY OR GO? PRACTICAL CONSIDERATIONS
Is He Abusive?
What about Your Finances?
Love, Lust and Litigation
His Babe-bonking Budget
That Bastard Grabbed Your Inheritance!
What about the Kids?
Can Kids Cause Infidelity?
Rotten Role Models
Rules of Religion
Does He Have a Guilty Conscience?
Is It Best If He Confesses?
CHAPTER SIX: STAY OR GO? RELATIONSHIP ISSUES
Do You Still Have a Good Relationship?
Marital Counseling
Whose Interests Come First?
Shades of Gray
Heroes or Demons?
Early Warning Signs
Wedding Woes
How Much Can You Compromise?
Your Book of Changes
Great Expectations
OK Before, Unacceptable Now?
Is Your Life Half Full or Half Empty?
What If the Other Woman Is a Man?
CHAPTER SEVEN: DEALING WITH THE OTHER WOMAN
Take the High Ground
Villain or Victim?
Why Is He F***ing Someone Young Enough to Be His Daughter?
Should You Confront Her?
CHAPTER EIGHT: SINKING INTO MARITAL CELIBACY
Emotional and Physical Reasons Why Sex Fizzles
Too Fat for Sex?
Celibacy, Infidelity and the Viagra Effect
CHAPTER NINE: RETHINKING SEX AFTER ADULTERY
Morality Minefield
Culture Clashes
Double Standards
What’s Love Got to Do with It?
Sexual Regret
Love Versus Lust, Romance Versus Commitment
Reclaiming Your Sex Life After Infidelity
Why Continue to Have Sex with Him?
Where Is Your Orgasm?
Mastering Masturbation
Sex as an Art and a Science
Who Does All the Work in Bed?
Passion Killers
Desperate Acts to Keep Him Interested
STDs: Is He Damaging Your Health as Well as Your Self-esteem?
CHAPTER TEN: SHOULD YOU FIND A LOVER TOO?
Are You Ready to Try a Tryst?
What Do You Gain from Male Attention?
Dating After Infidelity
The STD Jungle of Dating
Online Dating: Communication Breakdown?
Can’t You Be a Cougar?
Saying the L Word
Having an Affair When You Stay Married
Should You Tell Him You Are Having an Affair?
Should You Have an Open Relationship?
Are Human Beings Naturally Monogamous?
EPILOGUE
Did I Get It Right?
Share Your Story
BIBLIOGRAPHY
Brilliant CJ,
It is time to raise the awareness of spouses who are being hurt!!! You have put such an incredible spin on this subject. Humor is the best medicine, and the fact that you are opening up your heart, and sharing with others who find themselves in a similar situation, is courageous, insightful and giving. You’re incredible and I absolutely love the way you express yourself. This book is going to help so many people. Thank you!!
Regards,
JC